Relationship Therapy
in Seattle, WA.
Connect with yourself & the people who matter to you.
in-person in Seattle & online throughout washington
Sure, you know a lot of people—but somehow you just aren't feeling connected.
Maybe you’re struggling to make friends.
You’re feeling lonely, but no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to hack this whole making-friends-as-an-adult thing. It felt so much easier to make friends when you went to school every day—or maybe it’s that you’ve always struggled to fit in.
You want your life to be filled with people who get you, who you can count on, and who just feel good to be around. But whether it’s the logistics of not knowing where to meet new people, anxieties about social situations, or deeply-held insecurities and crushing self-doubt, you just haven’t been able to find your people yet—and you’re afraid you never will.
Or perhaps it’s dating that’s the challenge.
Maybe your stomach is in knots just thinking about putting yourself out there after a painful breakup. Or perhaps you’re wanting to try out dating for the first time and have no idea where to begin. Even opening up the dating app on your phone sends you into a spiral of thoughts about all the ways you aren’t good enough.
Part of you deeply desires to be in a relationship, but your heart races when you consider all the effort and vulnerability that would be involved. Whether you’re feeling hopeless about your options, doubt about your worth, anxiety about connecting, or fears about getting hurt, dating is feeling totally overwhelming right now.
Or you might be facing challenges in the relationships you already have.
Whether with your partner, your friends, or your family, you aren’t feeling as close as you want to be. Or maybe it’s that you’re feeling too close, like you don’t have the energy and space to meet your own needs because you’re always so focused on everyone else’s.
Maybe you keep getting stuck in conflict with your partner, or you sense that one of your friends is pulling away. Perhaps you don’t know how to connect with your grandma when she keeps criticizing every decision you make. Or you might be at a crossroads with your friends—some of you are single and focused on work and dating, and some of you are starting families with kids.
In one relationship or another, things are just feeling off.
Relationship therapy can help you explore what keeps you disconnected.
In therapy, I create a space for thoughtful, curious, & reflective individuals who want to explore their inner world, understand how they relate to others, and begin building more fulfilling connections.
Areas of Focus
In relationship therapy, we can work on…
→ Social anxiety & fears of rejection
→ Low self-worth & negative self-talk
→ Boundaries, communication, & people-pleasing
→ Dating & romantic relationships
→ Family relationships & friendships
What does relationship therapy look like?
While therapy unfolds in a unique way for each person, this is the process I have in mind as I collaborate with clients to move toward fulfilling connection.
1
Understand your relationship patterns
We will work to identify the patterns you can get stuck in when you’re feeling disconnected. Perhaps when you haven’t heard from a friend, you assume they don’t care about you, so you withdraw from them. Or maybe when your partner seems distant, you lash out and push them away, even though what you want is to feel close. You might follow the path your parents want for you over your own desires because you’re afraid to disappoint them.
How might your go-to patterns protect you? How might they keep you from building the relationships you truly want?
2
Explore & process your emotions
In one way or another, our relational patterns developed to protect us. But while our patterns may have served us well in the past, when left unexplored and unprocessed, they can eventually start to keep us from the very thing we want most: secure and fulfilling relationships. Working to change our patterns involves discovering, making space for, and processing the emotions that sustain them.
In therapy for relationships, we will work to access and process the emotions that are at the core of your relational patterns.
3
Create choices & deepen connection
As we work to help you get in tune with your emotional experience and to understand your patterns—where they came from and how they may contribute to disconnection—the benefit is that, more and more, you get to choose when you want to go to your protective patterns and when you want to take the risk to open yourself up to others.
We’ll help you get to know your inner world, develop compassionate ways of responding to your own emotions, and increase your ability to take the actions that help you connect.
Relationship Therapy Goals
While there are no guarantees in therapy, and I cannot promise that you will reach these goals, here is an idea of what we can work toward together…
✓ Communicating your thoughts & feelings to others
✓Working through fears of rejection
✓ setting the boundaries you need to feel safe & whole
✓ Connecting more deeply with yourself
✓ Discovering a sense of confidence & belonging
✓ Building fulfilling relationships with others
Therapeutic Methods
My approach is grounded in…
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Mindfulness & Self-Compassion
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Attachment-based modalities
I strive to create a nonjudgmental space where you can authentically express the full range of who you are. I am committed to welcoming, honoring, and exploring the various aspects of your identity and experiences that are important to you, approaching my work with an anti-oppression, Health at Every Size (HAES), neurodiversity, and LGBTQIA+ affirming lens.